 Instantaneous He Won't Commit We Don't Own the Land Too Much Sex  Ask the Shaman Yourself |
Too Much Sex Dear Shaman: My husband & I are happily married for 12 years. Recently, he has expressed dissatisfaction about the frequency of our sex life. He would like to have sex five or six times a week, while I'm perfectly satisfied with once or twice. When I say " no" he pouts. Am I wrong? Should I do my "wifely duty" even if I don't feel like it? Too Often For Me Dear Too Often: First, forget this "wifely duty" nonsense. Sex is , or should be, a mutually pleasurable act, stemming from mutual, not singular desire. You might be comforted to know how many questions like yours I receive... and it's not all "horny husband" vs. " reluctant wife." I receive an equal amount of complaints from women whose mate's ardor fails to match their own. What I would suggest is trying to spice up your sex life so that your interest increases somewhat, and make it a more qualitative rather than quantitative experience. It should be a gourmet meal, not fast food drive thru! I've always had a pet theory about these situations. While on the surface it looks as if all relationships mismatch on sexual drive, the probability is that those whose sex drive is in sync spend so much time enjoying each other we don't know they exist! Let's all shoot for that! Tips for Staying in Touch Hugging another human being, petting the dog or cat, feeling the downy softness of the flowers petals all stimulate our natural, but ignored, tactile energy connections. Don't let a day go by without some significant touching! |
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